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Men of the West! Part Two…
Then you need to factor in the cultural and social values of the area. When you have all that done, you still will have no clue on the guy but only a bit of understanding. It depends on where they got their education, religious beliefs, family life growing up, and so much more that it is very important that you know what traits you are looking for in a guy.
Are there guys in the USA that are like the average Filipino male? The answer is yes. However, some guys will view that a good way of treating women. Other guys view being that dominating as a recipe for divorce. Others still view guys who dictate to their wives to be a pendejo. It is incredibly varied here.
If you are talking to a guy who is single, never married and hasn’t dated much, that doesn’t mean he is a good catch or one to avoid. Similarly if the guy was divorced from his wife, that doesn’t mean he is a good catch or one to avoid. What you have to do is find out why.
For the divorced guys, why did they get a divorce? If they only blame the ex-wife, avoid them as they will blame you and not take responsibility for their own actions. Perhaps they say they made a mistake, and then they need to prove that their judgment skills have improved. Perhaps he says they grew apart and fell out of love, what is to stop them from doing the same with you? Are you being led down a wrong path?
If they are single guys and never married or haven’t dated much, why is that? Are they not interested in women? No social skills and turn to the Internet to shield their weaknesses? Maybe they just can’t stand the values of American women in their area and find it too hard to find someone. You need to ask.
In the end, it all comes down to you. You need to know what you are looking for in a guy no matter where they are from. This can only be done by first knowing who you are and what makes you tick. No one else can do it for you. Then you need to sit down at a desk with paper and pen or pencil in hand and start making a list of traits, the more the better. Some of them can be physical but looks change with time. The best question to ask yourself until it is exhausted is “what traits does a guy need to have so I can have complete trust, understanding and communication with him?”
Then when you chat, IM, meet, email or whatever method you use the primary focus is to communicate so you can build the trust and understanding. Keep going until you find the “right guy” because now you know what you are looking for.
A few pointers to keep in mind though. Yes, there are some Pinay women only looking to get a USA Green Card and will do whatever and accept whatever kind of guy. I’m not talking to that kind of lady. Instead if you are looking for a life-long hubby, you need to do your homework and communicate. There are some guys that only want a foreign wife to be their maid and servant and not a true wife. Some are legit.
No matter which, take your time and get to know the guy. I’ve watched too many three month whirlwind Internet romances end up in a life of misery. Some work but most are bad decisions. Communicate, communicate, communicate and then realize the world you are thinking about moving too is 90% different than what you know. It is a huge decision to make so make a wise choice and know what you are getting into.
Thank you,
