I believe we can all be honest on a few things. The core part of any relationship is trust, understanding, and communication. You cannot have a solid relationship without all three. You cannot have only 2 out of the 3. You must have all three out of three. Anything less and the relationship will eventually crumble and fail.

Let me paint the standard picture, a man and a women “fall in love” and proceed to get married. All goes well for a couple of years but then one or the other thinks they are “falling out of love.” Anyone who has been around enough knows that is called infatuation or the warm fuzzy feeling. That doesn’t last and eventually the relationship survives or dies based on the level of trust, understanding, and communication.

You have probably heard at least one lady say “he just doesn’t love me anymore; I don’t know what to do.” If you ask the guy, the response is often “I don’t know what she wants; I’m not a mind reader.”

Sound familiar? That’s a great sign they were never communicating in a way each could understand in the first place. You might as well be talking in Tagalog and he’s talking in French. You need a translator. All of this reinforces that we are all unique with our various strengths and weaknesses, skills and flaws, and even how we determine if someone is saying “I love you.”

The book that helps a lot in teaching how to bridge these languages is the Five Love Languages. My hubby and I did not get the “honeymoon” period as serious issues of life came at us quite fast so there was no infatuation phase for us. It also helped that he had already read the book ahead of time.

The five languages are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Physical Touch, Receiving Gifts, and Acts of Service. I’ll let you read the book or visit the website to figure out which is which. My hubby’s languages are Quality Time and, to a lesser degree, Words of Affirmation. Mine are Quality Time and secondary Physical Touch. I want his attention on me undivided when we cuddle. That’s just me though.

I strongly encourage this book and I have found out that it has been updated with a companion book of Five Apology Languages.

Thanks,

Anah

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