What's Da Buzz?

I may write quite a bit on the strength of our marriage or finding the right guy or gal but I would be ignoring the obvious. We all know of some couples in our lives that just should have never gotten married.

You can all sit there and nod your heads as you think of the couple in your life I am about to describe. The guy and gal are obviously not right for each other. As a friend of one or both of the individuals, you know their personalities clash but they are infatuated for now. Also, you know your friend is stubborn and will not listen to any advice anyways. It doesn’t matter if all of you who know him or her give a warning. They will do what they will do anyways.

It may take a few months or with plenty of denial and excuse making the inevitable gets stretched out into years. All along, you and those who know them are waiting for the divorce to happen. You are waiting for them to come to their senses and realize what everyone else already knew.

So we all wait for that time when their marriage falls apart and they say “We’re getting a divorce.” Of course you may have to pretend to be surprised, but you will be supportive and hope they don’t make another brain dead relationship choice in the future. You know they will and they won’t listen again but you can hope.

Instead of surprise that it happened, there is more relief that the trauma to the greater family, your friendship with them as you can’t stand his or her selection and theirs will start to come to an end.

If it is possible that the divorce can be ended peacefully, then only the paperwork remains. True, no divorce is good which is why I picked the title “Peeling an Onion.” There is no truly good way to peel and cut an onion either.

Now I have no idea if any of my readers know someone in California primed for a divorce but there is help available for a California divorce. Financial matters usually cause the greatest strain in a marriage. Given all of the foreclosures in California, this might be helpful to someone.

Anah